Becoming who you want to be by Steve Andreas http://www.realpeoplepress.com/booklist/new.html Basic Understandings 1 Self-concept, Values, and Self-Esteem 10 How a self-concept that is aligned with values results in self-esteem. 2 The Power of Self-concept 22 Why a good self-concept is a fundamental key to your success in life. 3 Elements of a Healthy Self-concept 30 The essential criteria that make your self-concept work well. Strengthening the Self 4 Changing Structure 43 Discover and improve the unique structure of your self-concept. 5 Changing Time 65 Make sure your self-concept functions well all the time. 6 Changing Content 82 Enriching and enhancing who you are, and what you can do. Expanding the Self 7 Utilizing Mistakes 100 Your mistakes can make your self-concept stronger and more accurate. 8 Transforming Mistakes 119 Using mistakes to become even more of who you want to be. 9 Building a New Quality of Self-concept 133 Create an entirely new desired quality or attitude for yourself. Transforming the Self 10 Transforming an Uncertain Quality 155 Make a weak quality into a strong basis for who you want to be. 11 Changing the “Not self” 180 Thinking of who you are not can be destructive, and how to change it. 12 Transforming an Unwanted Quality 195 Change a negative attitude into the positive one that you want. Boundaries of the Self 13 Discovering and Changing Boundaries 217 How to create inner boundaries that protect you more effectively. 14 Connecting with Others 239 How to be intimate, while retaining a strong sense of yourself.